Friends of the Opposite Sex in a Marriage?

What are your thoughts on this? 

What kind of friendship is this? 

Why is this friendship necessary? 

What do you gain as a married person having this king of friendship? 

Will this bring problems in your marriage? 

Are you ready to end this friendship if problems occur? 

This is definitely worth a discussion. Being married has challenges as it is, and some friendships could truly add some new challenges to your marriage.

I guess I would start with the question Could a marriage man have a single female friend or could a marriage woman have a single male friend? 

I took a poll on my social media pages to see what the thoughts were behind it and for the most part people feel that a friendship can happen between a single and a married person as long as there is trust, respect and honesty.

Now for the facts....They show that some close friendships with people of the opposite sex can be dangerous for your marriage because most affairs begin as friendships that cross the line or one person in this friendship starts to catch feeling for the other person or grown jealous of the person's spouse or You end up investing so much time in your friendship and not as much time in your marriage. Lets take it a step further, Behavioral scientists and psychologist describe friendships as a relationship that involves a long-lasting bond of sacrifice and shared moments. 

Lets sum this all up!!!! BE SMART!!! BE RESPECTFUL AND BE HONEST!!! 

You know what is right in your marriage and you know if the friendship gets out of control then STOP it!!! If your spouse does not like the friendship and it begins to disrupt your marriage, friendship needs to slow down or even stop! 

FOUNDER Go Personal!! 

I have a very, very, very (yes 3 very's) unique marriage with my husband, if you had the opportunity to hear any of lwc podcast's you would hear that our marriage is very different from any other marriage that you know. We are not filtered in any way and everything is out in the open.

With the facts out in the open there is no way for something to come up against us. I am free to answer any questions and talk about anything and he is the same. I am fine with my husband having single female friends as long as I know them. Have I always been this way? NO!! I have not and it took me quite a while to get here.

Before we were married...I was the kind of GIRL who didnt want her BOY around other girls. I know that I was insecure in ways and I didnt want to allow any situations to happen, More importantly these girls were doing way more than I was willing to do and I didnt want him enticed by those things.  When I grew into a WOMAN I realized that it was not up to me, it was up to him and I could not keep him under lock and key. Once I really grew into my own security, I had no worries and my life took a big change.

When my BOY became a MAN he helped me feel secure so that I didnt have to worry about him around other girls. Not only did he assure me, he showed me and allowed me to learn by looking at his actions. 

We have been friends for 20 years and we both have friends of the opposite sex and I feel that our marriage is the strongest it has even been and it gets stronger and stronger each year.. May GOD continue to bless us and you all in all of our marriages. 

If this is an area that you struggle with or want to talk about this one on one.. Email: Luvelywivesclub@gmail.com for a one on one with me and I will help you through this.

I pray this help's you

Luvely Wives, Do you know Love?

When you say that you love someone, what does that sound like to you? What does it feel like to you? What does love look like to you? Key word in this is TO YOU? Now, What does LOVE look like to GOD?

We live day by day saying "I Love You" and really believing that we know what LOVE is, Myself included. So ask yourself...Do I really know? Am I really patient? Am I always kind? Am I never Envious or never Boasting? or does it even mean that at all?

For me I strive to be the best ME every day and each day that GOD allows me to wake up is another day to get it right and I don't take that for granted! Is LOVE so high that it never goes low. I think so. Can I be so high on life that I never feel low? I think so.  GOD says he is love so I know he says I am LOVE, but am I acting in a way that pleases GOD? Is my tongue still and my heart pure? WOW!!! Have you every thought of how deep LOVE is? I mean really thought about LOVE? Do it Now if you can!! Read 1st Corinthians 13 and really see what LOVE is about. Pray first and ask GOD for the deepest meaning and let it be apart of you forever....And when all else fails.. Just know... these three will never and that is Faith, Hope and LOVE, but the greatest of these is LOVE.

I read this scripture about every single day and learn something new each time I read it. What are your thoughts on Love? We all know that GOD is LOVE and if we don't after reading this we will know. 

God set out a plan so that we wouldn't have to think about what LOVE is, we wouldn't have to worry if we had it or if we gave it because we WOULD know. See Scripture Below and Really get to know GOD's Love!

1 Corinthians 13 New International Version (NIV)

13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 

2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 

3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 

5 It does not dishonor others

, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 

6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 

7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 

9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 

10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.

11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 

12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

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Changing your attitude. 

Learning your communication type. 

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