Being a Good Time Steward - Patricia Hooper

For a mom with school aged kids a new school year oftentimes brings on stress, anxieties and a to-do list crammed with appointments, meetings, and lots of shopping trips. As that mom with school aged kids, I often found myself overwhelmed and exhausted from many of the responsibilities.

My typical school year checklist:

·         Drop off/pick up for baseball, basketball, cheer-leading, soccer, and band practice

·         Shop for school supplies/clothes, uniforms

·         Appointments- sport physicals, dentist and eye appointments

·         Attend kids sporting events, band concerts

·         Fundraise for various school activities

·         PTA meetings, parent teacher conferences 

Being an empty nester does mean more ‘time’, but if that time isn’t directed positively it can have negative consequences on me and possibly my marriage. An idle mind is the playground for the devil. Instead of me wallowing in tears since all of my kids have flown the coup, the Lord impressed on me to use my time wisely, be a good steward with the ‘new’ time given me.

Here’s an example of my new school year checklist:

·         Daily devotions

·         Meaningful prayer time

·         Time for hobbies, exercising and me-time—I started taking a Barre class, love it!

·         More date nights and quality time with my honey

·         More social outing with friends and family

·         Regular home cooked meals

I was blessed to spend about 8 years as a stay at home mom, I thought that I had all day to do what I wanted and needed. The days quickly got away from me and most times my husband would come home to chaos, disarray and no dinner. I had to regroup and reset and get myself and the kids on a schedule. Once I did that the Hooper house looked and operated differently, more productive. I wasn’t going to misuse the blessing of being able to stay home by not being a good steward of time.

 I won’t misuse the blessing of the extra ‘time’ that this new season in my life brings. God is holding me accountable and f I am a good steward with few, he will bless me with more.

Be Blessed and Be a Blessing!

Patricia                 

Alone time with our spouses

Written by: Angela Garcia 

As parents we sometimes get caught up in caring for our children, we should remember to take time out for our spouses. My husband sometimes has to remind me that once our daughter is grown and off to college all we will have is each other. No one wants to be the couple that grows old together and has nothing to talk about or has a hard transition to be just "husband and wife" again. When we feel guilty about having alone time or leaving the kids for a weekend remember they will grow up one day and it will be you and your spouse like it was in the beginning. Embrace the time alone and enjoy every quite moment of it you deserve it. God has given us each other to create a life, our children are a bonus to that blessing. 

1 Corinthians 11:11 

Never the less in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor is man independent of woman. 

What I’ve learned in My First Few Years of Marriage

Written by: Saviela Edwards Thorne

A new marriage is like a blank page staring at you. It’s ready for you to write your story on it. It’s new, fresh and the beginning of something so beautiful only if we allow God to be the author. Many times, we rush to the altar because we believe in our minds and our heart that this is “The One” without consulting God first. Marriage is ordained and created by the one true God and a covenant that the devil with all his might is trying to destroy. A Godly Marriage is not just for two people who desire to be married, but it’s an example of the fellowship between God and His people.

The Design of Marriage

The unity of marriage is a visual representation of the kingdom of God. As God being the head, the husband being the covering (head over the home) and the wife, the teacher and nurturer of her children (Ephesians 5:23). God’s design in marriage was never for the woman to be the head of over the man. The Garden of Eden is where the deconstruction of the unity of marriage began when Adam allowed his wife, Eve to cause him to doubt what God told him. Eve over stepped her boundary by manipulating the word of God to get what she wanted from Adam.

Isn’t this just like some wives today to try to change the situation and to manipulate their husbands to do what they want him to do instead of following the original plan? Since the original plan was destroyed through curiosity, lust and greed, the word of God clearly tells the woman, “I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee” Genesis 3:16.  Only when we, as wives decide to completely submit to our husbands as our husbands completely submit to God, will we then find a sense of peace in our homes and in our spirits. 

Respect

“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband”- Ephesians 5:33

This is one word that I completely failed at in the beginning of my marriage. I thought I knew what it was to RESPECT my husband, but unfortunately, I didn’t. I fought against him and what he would ask me to do if I didn’t see it his way. In a sense, I became Eve. It wasn’t until I was convicted in my spirit that I realized I was so wrong, and I sinned against God and my husband by not RESPECTING him. Once I submitted my will to my husband as he submitted his will to God, then there was harmony and unity in or marriage and we begin to see God work in miraculous ways. God opened doors for us that no man can shut. He proved to us that in order for Him to work through us, we must first SUBMIT to Him. This is by no means a bad word. To me, it’s a beautiful word because it shows me how much strength I have to submit my will and way to another. This is just like God because all He wants us to do is submit to Him so He can work through us.

Marriage is not designed just to make you happy.

I’ve heard so many couples separate or divorce their spouse because they just weren’t “Happy” with them anymore. Happiness is based on what is currently happening. If happiness is the goal in marriage, then what happens when there is a disagreement? Is that grounds for divorce? There are going to be times in marriage when you are frustrated with each other for whatever reason.

It’s important to FORGIVE and to move forward quickly in order for you to remain in good standing with the Lord, and each other as stated in St. Matthew 6:14-15, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

The longer a resolution to a situation is delayed the longer the devil has to come in and work on your mind. We are instructed to leave NO space for the devil (Ephesians 4:26-27). What are some of the reasons why couples become unhappy and grow apart? In some cases, they allow the spark of romance to decease and find other things to occupy their time and energy rather than spending quality time with their spouse. Sometimes it can be career, children or even the ministry. God’s desire is for there to be unity within the marriage because with unity there is strength. He wants us to grow together in Him which will in turn cause us to grow together with each other. He also wants us to fulfill each other’s needs in all areas “The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs” 1 Corinthians 7:3, NLT.

[Side note: Here are a few ways to bring back the romance in a marriage: reminisce on the time when you were courting, look at old pictures together, give each other a massage, take a trip together, just the two of you, go on a date, surprise each other with your favorite things, just simply tell each other what you love about one another and remember it’s the little things that counts.]

Never Give Up

Please take a moment to read the New Living Translation version of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 with your spouse. The verse that brought me to repentance was verse 7, "Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." God is so faithful even when we aren't.

His love is continual even in our consistent sin. I'm so glad I never gave up on my husband when we went through our tough times, and he didn't give up on me. And I am even more grateful that Christ didn't give up on both of us and kept us together.

These are just a few things out of the many things I’ve learned in my short time being married to my wonderful husband. We are not perfect, but we are definitely perfect for each other. Handcrafted and designed by God just for one another. Our prayer is for God to continue to do His will in our lives, and allow our marriage to be an example of His perfect love for His Church.

Busting the Myth of Separateness

Written by: -Michelle E. Diago

Before we jump into marriages and relationships I must share something with you in the spirit of full disclosure.  I’ve been on a pretty intense spiritual journey.  The kind that changes the trajectory of your entire life and lies at the heart of my desire to serve others.  This experience has had such a profound impact on my life and my marriage that I knew it needed to be one of the first things I shared with all of you.  Some of it is pretty “heavy,” but I believe it’s the, “meat and potatoes,” that draws people together and I want you to see me on day one for who I truly am.  So here it goes!

    I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and I share this with you because it has been an integral part of where I’ve been in my life and more importantly where I am going.  In fact, this is the first time I have publicly shared that I am a survivor (I’m letting it marinate for a minute, but so far it doesn’t feel so bad!) so I thank you for bearing witness to this step in my own personal evolution.  So, why do I feel the need to tell you this?  Because my abuse tormented my life, my happiness and my relationships for decades.  I’ve spent much of my life with low self-esteem, an inability to trust and in a continual state of depression.  Simply put, I was so busy fearing life that I wasted years not actually living it.  As an adolescent, I had been blessed with great athletic ability, wonderful learning opportunities and numerous blessings.  When I became an adult, I found an amazing husband, I inherited 3 beautiful children and by all accounts led a, “well-adjusted,” life.  But secretly I was dying inside.  Some days were a struggle just to make it through the motions of marriage, motherhood and my career.  What was worse was that I knew full well that I was a prisoner to my own past.  Yet nothing I tried brought me salvation.  And then it all changed…

    I reached a point in my life that I could no longer carry the weight of this burden.  It was as if I had picked up a rock, every day for the last 25+ years until one day I turned around and realized that this mountain was no longer mine to climb.  There had to be a better way.  I didn’t know what that way was or how it would come about but a voice inside of me urged me to begin again.  Through a remarkable series of people and events my life drastically changed within a matter of months.  I couldn’t be more sincere when I tell you that once I finally made the decision to surrender my abuse, my pain and all my years of suffering over to God and simply ask for a miracle everything around me began to conspire in my favor.  It was as if all this love and energy had been waiting for me for years but I held on so tightly to my victimization that I had nowhere to receive the blessings that were right in front of me.  In the days, weeks and months since I made this shift in my life I have devoted myself to my faith, to meditation and to every possibility that awaits me.  It’s something I practice every day.  Some days I stumble, some days I am a rock star and exude love and peace.  Bust most days are spent in what I consider to be the, “thick of things.”  The process by which extraordinary change is possible.  The process that guides you into a higher vibrational existence and opens you up to creative possibilities, to love and to light.  I share this with you because one of my first, “a-ha,” moments in this spiritual journey spoke directly to my marriage and the way I approached my husband.

    As little girls, we are conditioned to believe that some ONE will come along one day and complete us.  They will be the yin to our yang.  They will bring all the qualities that we lack into our lives and give us complete happiness, love and acceptance.  In my case, I wanted someone whose presence in my life would somehow heal me and my past.  Let me be the first to tell you ladies that that is one big, heaping, steaming pile of you…know…what.  Not because life is cruel and prince-charming and fairytales don’t exist.  It’s false because it undermines one of the most basic truths about every single human being.  And that is that we are wholly and wonderfully made in His image which has no lack, no sin and no separateness.  All our senses lead us to believe that we are separate individuals leading separate lives searching desperately for interconnection.  And yet our truth, our spirit has no boundaries.  How can there be separateness when we are all an idea in the mind of God?  How can another mortal form complete us when the fabric of who we are is already pure, eternal and whole?

    As we begin to dive into issues surrounding marriage and relationships it is an absolute necessity that each of you embrace your wholeness from this moment forward. There is nothing within you that needs completion or “fixing,” nor is that the purpose of having intimate relationships or otherwise.  Every relationship that you have during your life is an assignment.  It’s part of a greater curriculum that is highly specialized for you and your life not to fill a void but to bridge your human experience with your Truth.  There is nothing your partner can give you that you don’t already have deep within you my friend.  Every ounce of strength, every moment of profound wisdom, every answer that you seek lies within you.  Just like an acorn is hardwired to grow into a tree, a rose bud into a blossom and a single cell into a human being you have within you the blueprint to become a joyous and peaceful person and partner.

    Over the next couple of weeks, I challenge each of you to acknowledge and celebrate your wholeness whether it be through words of affirmation, daily prayer or even just considering the possibility that a different way exists.  Know with every fiber of your being that your spirit, your truth is perfect.  My spiritual journey has empowered me to approach my marriage from a completely different point of view.  It’s given me a strength and wisdom that wasn’t there before and it has manifested so many miracles in my relationship as it will surely do for you and yours.  Whatever your path has been up until this point in your life and in your marriage, know that you are held by God.  Next time we’ll discuss how you can begin manifesting your Truth and how that one small shift can make a huge impact on your relationship.  Until then…the love in me salutes the love in you.  

                                                                                                                                                                                                 

LWC Writer Kendra White

Kendra White 

Hey Y’all my name is Kendra White. I am a true southern lady who is Kentucky raised and Jesus saved. I am a wife, mom, daughter, and friend. I adore my family, and I love to laugh. I love HGTV, and I still haven’t forgiven my husband for canceling cable. I am an avid Kentucky basketball fan and will plan my calendar around all games. I married an NFL football fan and now speak fluent Red Zone, and of course I love any sport my kids play. I believe that in Heaven next to the lands of milk and honey will be Diet Dr. Pepper flowing, it is how I stay hydrated! Most importantly I love Jesus, and have since the seasoned age of 9, and promise I could out sing you any day in a hymn sing off (Do those exist? They totally should!)

I graduated from Asbury University which is nestled outside of Lexington, Kentucky. The town is a total college town and has only 2 stop lights. It feels like a real-life Mayberry. I graduated with a degree in Christian Education and then went on to be a Children’s Pastor at one of the largest churches in Kentucky. Teaching others that the Bible is living and active is my greatest passion in life.

While in college I got a wild hair to leave the mother land of Kentucky and head to the wide-open spaces of Colorado (or maybe I just listened to too much Dixie Chicks), and I applied to the Focus on the Family Institute. That’s right, this was the school run by Dr. Dobson where you go to learn all you need to know about marriage, parenting, and tools for life. I was accepted there the summer between my Junior and Senior year, plus I was getting college credit for all the “learning” I was doing. 82 students were accepted that summer, 70 girls, 12 boys. Adventure awaited as I was about to leave horse country in exchange for the majestic mountain country of Colorado. What I didn’t know was that God had something in store that summer that would forever change my life.

There was the boy, he was (and is) oh so handsome. He took over the ice breaker games and his leadership skills had me all hot and bothered. During church, we had to hold hands to pray, after the “amen” I didn’t let go, I couldn’t. This boy he was from a faraway land one I had only ever heard not so nice things about, THE NORTH, well technically Minneapolis, MN, but that was a far cry from the mother land. But love, love can do funny things to a person. So, after 2 years of talking hours daily on the phone, numerous flights, one flat tire in Chicago, he gave up all he had ever known and moved to Kentucky. Six weeks later he got down on one knee on the playground where I played as a child and asked me to be his wife, and emphatically I said yes!

13.5 years later we have a marriage that is so far from perfect that we have to fight for it daily but we do it because we love God first and each other second. We have an amazing 10 year old son John Hunter who brings us so much joy in all he does. We have a 5 year old daughter Lynley who lights ups a room with her smile if she stops talking long enough to flash it. About 2 years ago we moved to that 2 stop light college town where I went to school in Wilmore, KY after living 8 years in Indianapolis. It was a bit of a culture shock but we have grown to love it. We can usually be found most weekends pulling the fold up wagon full of Gatorade and boxed candy from one sporting event to another as we watch our kids play. When we aren’t at the fields we love to travel or in our backyard at the pool hosting parties or opening our home as a resting place for families to get real with each other and find peace.

 Most days I am just doing my best to survive this thing called life. I’m certain if you ever stopped by the house the laundry would be still be in the washer from a few days ago, my latest Pinterest project would be strung across my studio, guaranteed my sons baseball cup would be out in the open, my daughter will have her 1.3 million dolls or collection of something lined up somewhere and my husband, well he will either be working or playing video games, but we will all be glad you stopped by. We are by no means perfect, and we will never want you think we are, but we will always be honest, transparent and real (maybe too real), and will have some yummy eats for you! So please stop on by we’d love to have ya!

LWC Writer Susan Waldron

Susan Waldron 

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Why did God led me to my husband? 

I met my husband after a horrible relationship that could have led to disaster.  When I look back on that year, I pause and thank God.  Of course, I didn't have a relationship with him then, I just knew he was there and a small voice was speaking to me daily.  

Today, I am a happily married wife to my Hubs, as I affectionately call him.  We were married in October of 1996.  That's right, almost 21 years.  We have two girls, Abby will be 19 in August and El just turned 12.  We have always loved each other and for years I held on to that as a beacon.  I sometimes didn't like his choices, but I had to keep remembering our vows.

In 2005, Hurricane Katrina placed 6 feet of water into our New Orleans East area home.  We luckily evacuated the Saturday before the storm struck. Once again, it was that small voice speaking to me.  Later in our marriage, I heard that small voice, but by then we were relocated to a small town 1.5 hours south west of New Orleans. We reconnected with some of my Hubs cousins and they invited us to attend their church.  What an eye opener is was for us to feel the Holy Spirit surround us and feel so much peace in one day. 

We joined the church and on our 12th anniversary we had our marriage blessed in the Baptist church.  It was such a thrilling moment in our walk with The Lord.  From that day on, I felt the Holy Spirit fulfill me with the love of Christ.  It all clicked for me.  It was our Lord, speaking to me in the small voice.  It was such an uplifting feeling of peace.  

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LWC Writer Patricia Hooper

Patricia Hooper 

“ Patricia, Trish, Patty, Patsy, P, Patty-kins, PattyAnne, PattiHoop, Honey, Babes, Mommy, Mom, and Baby Girl ” names that I have answered to by co-workers, friends and family for over 50 years. The name given to me by my Heavenly Father for over 30 years is Princess and Daughter of the Most High! My other coveted name is that of wife, a title that I have held with honor for over 28 years.

 My husband Dwayne has made it easy for me, his motto for our marriage is ‘happy wife, happy life’.  He is my covering, protector, lover, financier, best friend and my servant-leader! Because he loves me as Christ loves the church, I have no hesitation whatsoever to submit to him as head of our household.

Dwayne and I are involved in a couple of ministries at our church—we are co-facilitators of the pre-marital counseling class and head up the marriage ministry. I also work with the high school teenage girls in a group called God’s Princesses.

We have been blessed with 3 beautiful children, now young adults. Dewayne, affectionately known as DJ, a 2013 United States Naval Academy graduate, is a naval aviator with the United States Navy. DJ recently (one month ago) married the love of his life Katie, a veterinary student and animal lover.   Clarke, my only girl, is a track star and honors education major at Mt. St. Mary’s University. Last but not least is my youngest, Grant Christian, a plebe/freshman at the United States Naval Academy.  

Over the 28 years, Dwayne and I have experienced a miscarriage, two premature births, pregnancy complications, loss of both set of parents, a cancer diagnosis, health issues and challenges. Overall, we have had more good days than bad days, but through each trial, our relationship with each other has strengthened, but most importantly, our relationship with our Heavenly Father and our faith has grown exponentially  with each circumstance. I am so ever thankful that the Lord gave me the greatest partner to battle life’s storms with and celebrate sunny days.

I mentioned my kids earlier in my introduction, stating that my youngest just went off to college, which means we are now empty nesters, how fun and exciting…NOT!  Instead of me dwelling on how sad I will be without my kids, the Lord has been tugging at me to draw closer to HIM in prayer and devotion and embrace this new season instead of being sad.   My new normal or new season is that of an empty nester--me and Mr. Hooper, back to where the Hooper Family all began; I call this season ‘The Best is Yet to Come’.

My blog will minister to married women in this season.  I will share how sweet this new season should be in our relationship with the Lord and with our husbands. Tears of sadness will turn into shouts of praises as we experience ‘The Best is Yet to Come’.

LWC Writer Angela Garcia

Angela Garcia 

Hello, my name is Angela I am 26 years old I was born and raised in Texas. I met my husband three years ago after leaving a bad relationship. Neither one of us were looking for a relationship but ended up falling in love pretty quickly. We have been married a little over two month now and I could not be more thankful for this amazing God fearing man. We have an amazing curly headed little princess that keeps us on our toes but we could not imagine life without her. 

LWC Writer Saviela Edwards Thorne

Saviela Edwards Thorne

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My name is Saviela Edwards Thorne from South Carolina. I am a devoted Christian and wife to a wonderful man of God who is a drummer and teacher of the Gospel. We married on December 10, 2011 exactly one year from the day we started dating. We do not have children yet but are believing God for our miracle baby. I had a miscarriage back in 2013 and almost lost my life because of an ectopic pregnancy. Even though I didn’t birth a baby, I did birth my purpose of writing. The very first published article I wrote was, “Life After a Miscarriage”. My life has completely changed since then; I have written over 30 articles which are highlighted in my first published book, “Seasons of a Woman’s Life: Devotionals to Empower Women to Become Overcomers” with a Foreword by Joann Rosario Condrey. It’s currently available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. I have God all the glory! If it wasn’t for God having His hand upon my life I would not be here today. My prayer is to encourage each and every woman and wife through my personal experiences and many seasons of my life.

If you want to connect with Saviela - Please email luvelywivesclub@gmail.com 

Luvely Wives Club - Guest Writers

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LWC Featured Writer - Michelle Diago

Hi there!  My name is Michelle and I am truly honored to be a part of the Luvely Wives Club!  I knew this community was the place for me the moment Luvely and I exchanged emails.  Just a week prior to our meeting I had confided in a close friend of mine that I wanted to, “reach,” other couples.  After having been through some pretty unique experiences in my own marriage and faith I felt for quite some time, a desire to share a sense of hope, faith and positivity with other women.  Literally within a matter of days of sharing this with my friend, I stumbled upon The Luvely Wives Club and knew that God had answered my prayers to serve.

I am 36 years old and a mother to five children.  Our oldest three (Luke, Evan and Maddie) are from my husband’s first marriage and then we have our two youngest kids, Jackson and Grace.  Our oldest son will be turning 17 in the fall and our youngest daughter Grace just turned 2 in March.  So, as you can see we have a diverse age range and a blended family which has surely kept things interesting over the years!  My husband and I have been married for five years and together for ten.  Larry and I moved in with each other after just 2 weeks of dating and from that moment on our adventure together hasn’t stopped.  We have had some amazing highs and anguishing lows but through it all we’ve remained best friends and it has made all the difference.  I can’t wait to share more of our story with you in the coming weeks!

Ever since I was a young girl, writing has always been a passion of mine.  There’s something magical about stringing together the English language in ways that can stir emotion in others, even amongst strangers.  A single sentence can inspire heartwarming laughter, give thoughtful pause or draw tears from the soul.  Writing today, in a world that is dominated largely by texts, tweets and emails is like a vintage art to me.  Meaningful writing, the kind that binds us together as strong, beautiful and fiercely Guided women, simply never goes out of style.  God has given to each of us a unique gift, designed to be shared in the service of others so that we may rise to our highest levels of human experience.  My hope is that my gift can be used to help each of you discover yours so that it may be shared within your marriages, your relationships and in your greater lives. 

In my spare time I enjoy working out, reading too many books at one time (I am currently reading 4 different ones) and convincing our youngest kids that getting a dog would not be a scary thing.  I am currently writing a book entitled, “Through the Darkness,” and eventually plan to travel the country as a motivational speaker and author.  My husband and I live in South Jersey (don’t ask me how a girl born in Puerto Rico ends up living in Jersey!) and love exploring new restaurants and new experiences. But I still consider the, “south,” my home as I spent most of my adolescence growing up in Florida.  I hope this gives you a little glimpse into who I am and I look forward to connecting with you more in my next post.    Until then…the love in me salutes the love in you.  

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The Love Box Mini is a Box with 2-3 items in it geared towards your Relationship or Marriage.
Activity 
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Challenge

This box focuses on helping you and your significant other create a greater connection with each other and in the LORD with or without completing the activity together! 

You will Create, Connect and Develop in this activity as well as Plan something amazing for the future and the added bonus is that you can do this with your spouse or by yourself for your relationship!

Relationship Focus: Creating and Planning

Spiritual Focus: Connecting and Understanding

The Love you share for each other is amazing and with GOD all things are Grand. Lets put our hands together and create something so wonderful that it makes GOD excited!!! Who's up for the challenge?!!

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Full 10 Day Thank you Husband Challenge

Full 10 Day Thank you Husband Challenge. I said that I would post the full challenge for those who want to have it or those who could not do it with LWC so here it is..

See below the full challenge and see how you can do this in your marriage. See previous post that gives details on how to do it each day. 

This is such a wonderful challenge LWC did this challenge on March 20, 2017 and it was such a huge success.. See all of the post on the Luvely Wives Club Instagram page for details and huge congratulations to Mrs. Bailey and Mrs. Meeks who were the two winners of the Challenge!! See their prices on the next post and our social media pages. 

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10 Day Thank you Spouse Challenge DETAILS!!

Details of the challenge!!! PLEASE READ!!!

Do you tell your spouse that you are thankful for them? Do you find ways to show how thankful you are that GOD allowed your spouse into your life? Why did you choose your spouse? What qualities did you see in your spouse that made you say yes I will marry you?

This is what this challenge is about!!! It is 10 days to bring the THANK YOU back into your Marriage or continue the THANK YOU

THE CHALLENGE

I challenge you to comment on the Luvely Wives Club Instagram or Facebook page each day under the thank-you spouse challenge picture one thing that you are thankful about concerning your spouse. You must complete the day regardless of how you feel about your spouse that day, SO YES!!! even if they make you mad, or get on your nerves etc. The key is to push through that and to say something about your spouse that you are Thankful for. I will join in with you each day in the challenge. YOU MUST FINISH THE CHALLENGE. Each day I will check to see who has posted and what they said. I will keep notes on each person as well and at the end of the challenge I am going to give away a very nice gift!!!

Added Challenge for a different gift drawing.. IF YOU TAG YOUR SPOUSE in the post each day you will be added into a different drawing for a gift that will truly be romantic for you and your spouse.

SO TWO CHALLENGES..

1. POST ABOUT SPOUSE UNDER CHALLENGE PIC EACH DAY FOR 10 DAYS

2. POST ABOUT SPOUSE UNDER CHALLENGE PIC EACH DAY FOR 10 DAYS AND TAG SPOUSE IN IT. (If your spouse is not on Facebook or Instagram you can send him a text with the info but you must screenshot the text and send it to luvelywivesclub email. just your words nothing else.. this way we can see that you sent the message to him.

This is all in fun and to say to your spouse thank you for all that you do and are to me and I want to tell you this each day for 10 days.. My hopes is that you all continue to do this and start to show or continue to show your spouse just how wonderful they are to you.     

There will be prizes!!! and most of all you get to LOVE on your spouse for 10 days a little extra then the daily love you give!!! 

Husband and Wife Role

Have you ever really read these scriptures to get a good understanding of what God said about marriage.

I posted this today because I want you to dwell on these words and see instructions on how God envisioned husband and wives roles.

Everything More and Nothing Less!! 

Ephesians 5

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 

For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, 

cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,

and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 

After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body.

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Ephesians 5:21‭-‬33 NIV

http://bible.com/111/eph.5.21-33.NIV

Marriage on the Move!!

Do you remember how it felt when you first got married? How about your marriage day, was this one of the best days of your life? Did you live in the moment and did you feel the way this women feels running with her husband on the beach. (Well the way we think she feels)Look at her face, see how big her smile is, do you remember when you smiled this big? Do you smile this big now? 

Yes Marriage goes through its changes. I hear from many women that the feelings that they have now are not the same as when they first got married. I say Rightfully so because feelings change as time goes bye. This is not necessary a bad thing, its all about the direction your marriage is going. Are those feelings different in a negative way or different in a positive way... Think about it... NOW I asked you all.. What are you doing to get those good feelings back or to keep those good feeling going? We are in relationships Ladies!!! and deeper than relationships we are in marriages. We must continue to work at the marriage day by day and not rely on our husbands to make us FEEL a certain way all of the time. Take charge and take control of the issues in your marriage and make the changes necessary. Get back those feeling that you use to feel or work on keeping the feelings that you currently have strong!!! 

If I were to ask your spouse what kind of wife are you, what would he say? Think about this, What kind of wife are you? This could answer the question as to what changes need to be made on your behalf or what needs to stay the same. 

I titled this Marriage on the MOVE because the key is that your marriage should be moving...it should be moving forward. Your marriage shouldn't be the same as it was when you first got marriage, those feelings should be stronger and you should be wiser. Environments should change, attitudes should change, Even friendships MAY have to change. Get your marriage back on track and get your marriage on the MOVE..

I encourage you Wives.. Make your marriage important. Make the changes that need to be made without looking for your husband to help. I often hear it takes two but I believe one will do especially when you are working with GOD. He may not want to work on the marriage or make any changes, that's not right, but its okay for NOW.. We stand firm on the belief that GOD can do all things and he will never fail us. SO why are we not believing that now?! 

I leave you with 1st Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife. Dwell on this, pray on this and MOVE with GOD for your MARRIAGE

MOVE... WIVES... MOVE!! 

Friends of the Opposite Sex in a Marriage?

What are your thoughts on this? 

What kind of friendship is this? 

Why is this friendship necessary? 

What do you gain as a married person having this king of friendship? 

Will this bring problems in your marriage? 

Are you ready to end this friendship if problems occur? 

This is definitely worth a discussion. Being married has challenges as it is, and some friendships could truly add some new challenges to your marriage.

I guess I would start with the question Could a marriage man have a single female friend or could a marriage woman have a single male friend? 

I took a poll on my social media pages to see what the thoughts were behind it and for the most part people feel that a friendship can happen between a single and a married person as long as there is trust, respect and honesty.

Now for the facts....They show that some close friendships with people of the opposite sex can be dangerous for your marriage because most affairs begin as friendships that cross the line or one person in this friendship starts to catch feeling for the other person or grown jealous of the person's spouse or You end up investing so much time in your friendship and not as much time in your marriage. Lets take it a step further, Behavioral scientists and psychologist describe friendships as a relationship that involves a long-lasting bond of sacrifice and shared moments. 

Lets sum this all up!!!! BE SMART!!! BE RESPECTFUL AND BE HONEST!!! 

You know what is right in your marriage and you know if the friendship gets out of control then STOP it!!! If your spouse does not like the friendship and it begins to disrupt your marriage, friendship needs to slow down or even stop! 

FOUNDER Go Personal!! 

I have a very, very, very (yes 3 very's) unique marriage with my husband, if you had the opportunity to hear any of lwc podcast's you would hear that our marriage is very different from any other marriage that you know. We are not filtered in any way and everything is out in the open.

With the facts out in the open there is no way for something to come up against us. I am free to answer any questions and talk about anything and he is the same. I am fine with my husband having single female friends as long as I know them. Have I always been this way? NO!! I have not and it took me quite a while to get here.

Before we were married...I was the kind of GIRL who didnt want her BOY around other girls. I know that I was insecure in ways and I didnt want to allow any situations to happen, More importantly these girls were doing way more than I was willing to do and I didnt want him enticed by those things.  When I grew into a WOMAN I realized that it was not up to me, it was up to him and I could not keep him under lock and key. Once I really grew into my own security, I had no worries and my life took a big change.

When my BOY became a MAN he helped me feel secure so that I didnt have to worry about him around other girls. Not only did he assure me, he showed me and allowed me to learn by looking at his actions. 

We have been friends for 20 years and we both have friends of the opposite sex and I feel that our marriage is the strongest it has even been and it gets stronger and stronger each year.. May GOD continue to bless us and you all in all of our marriages. 

If this is an area that you struggle with or want to talk about this one on one.. Email: Luvelywivesclub@gmail.com for a one on one with me and I will help you through this.

I pray this help's you

Luvely Wives, Do you know Love?

When you say that you love someone, what does that sound like to you? What does it feel like to you? What does love look like to you? Key word in this is TO YOU? Now, What does LOVE look like to GOD?

We live day by day saying "I Love You" and really believing that we know what LOVE is, Myself included. So ask yourself...Do I really know? Am I really patient? Am I always kind? Am I never Envious or never Boasting? or does it even mean that at all?

For me I strive to be the best ME every day and each day that GOD allows me to wake up is another day to get it right and I don't take that for granted! Is LOVE so high that it never goes low. I think so. Can I be so high on life that I never feel low? I think so.  GOD says he is love so I know he says I am LOVE, but am I acting in a way that pleases GOD? Is my tongue still and my heart pure? WOW!!! Have you every thought of how deep LOVE is? I mean really thought about LOVE? Do it Now if you can!! Read 1st Corinthians 13 and really see what LOVE is about. Pray first and ask GOD for the deepest meaning and let it be apart of you forever....And when all else fails.. Just know... these three will never and that is Faith, Hope and LOVE, but the greatest of these is LOVE.

I read this scripture about every single day and learn something new each time I read it. What are your thoughts on Love? We all know that GOD is LOVE and if we don't after reading this we will know. 

God set out a plan so that we wouldn't have to think about what LOVE is, we wouldn't have to worry if we had it or if we gave it because we WOULD know. See Scripture Below and Really get to know GOD's Love!

1 Corinthians 13 New International Version (NIV)

13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 

2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 

3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 

5 It does not dishonor others

, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 

6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 

7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 

9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 

10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.

11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 

12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Chat with our Founder about your Marriage?

Want to chat with our Founder about your Marriage? Find out how are founder made it work in her marriage. Over 19 years of Friendship, Love, Relationship and Marriage all with one man!! How did she help keep a relationship this long? Chat for the secrets! 

Email: Luvely Wives Club @ luvelywivesclub@gmail.com

***What to expect in your Chat session***

To determine the major problems in your marriage and where they stem from.

To create a clear vision for your marriage and what steps you will take to make it happen.

To define the marriage you have and the marriage you want.

To talk about you as the individual and what you have and can do to make it better.

To learn how to work one sided. (meaning spouse may not want to work with you)

Changing your attitude. 

Learning your communication type. 

And to talk about all things YOU in an effort to help your Marriage. 

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